A Psychologist Identified 6 Signs of People Who Were Not Loved in Childhood

When a child is born, their most important object becomes their mother. They grow, learn to speak, walk, and explore the world, but the mother remains the closest person to them. Therefore, it is important for mothers to provide their child with a sense of calm, stability, and, above all, love.The father also plays an important role. The mother is associated with love, care, and warmth, while the father is associated with exploring the world, protection, and self-confidence. Only when both parents are actively involved in raising their children do they grow up happy.If, for some reason, a child feels lonely or unwanted, they grow up with traumas that they carry into adulthood. This is especially true for emotionally cold mothers.Psychologist and author, Doctor of Philosophy Joni Webb— Imagine that your childhood is the foundation, and your adult life is the house you are building. If the foundation is unreliable, all efforts may be in vain, — explains the psychologist.The expert provides examples of people who have "cracks in their foundation":Anna and Maria have been friends for a long time. Anna shares her experiences with Maria, and Maria always listens attentively and gives advice. However, Maria herself does not talk about her feelings, and Anna begins to doubt the sincerity of their friendship.Mikhail is a successful manager but struggles to resolve conflicts within the team, leading to a buildup of problems.Anton and Anastasia have been together for a long time, but Anton notices that only he makes decisions, while Anastasia simply agrees.What do these people have in common? A heavy psychological trauma left by their parents, likely by their mother, claims the psychologist.Signs of People Who Were Not Loved in Childhood1. They do not like to talk about themselves. Such people are great listeners but keep their lives a secret, especially disliking discussions about family.2. They do not know what they want. These people care for others but rarely think about their own needs.3. They find it difficult to talk about feelings. The emotions of such people are hard to guess; they cannot openly express their grievances or desires.4. They do not share childhood memories. Such people often remain a mystery to those around them.5. They avoid conflicts. These people prefer to walk away from problems without discussing them.6. They do not know how to react to others' feelings. When someone opens up to them, they may feel awkward and want to leave.When parents reject a child, they begin to think that their feelings do not matter. This leads to low self-esteem and avoidance of emotions. Only a qualified psychotherapist can help restore lost feelings.How to Help Such PeopleThe environment can provide support. It is important to show patience, says Joni Webb.1. Take an interest in their affairs. Do this regularly but gently, showing that you care.2. Support them in conflicts. Stand by their side and offer help.3. Talk about feelings. Start with simple topics, such as movies or books.Do not violate their boundaries: if a topic becomes uncomfortable, it is better to switch to a neutral one.